Evolution lets you off the hook. This makes perfect sense.

I never thought of myself as a perfectionist because I never have done anything “perfectly”.  

Are you a perfectionist? Do you, too, think you need to do your best and are hard on yourself because your best isn’t perfect?

P is for Peggy Perfect

I now have the “perfect” excuse to not be perfect. I can blame evolution.  

What a relief.

Everyone has on average 400 flaws in their DNA*

“As life evolved, new abilities and new forms of life were not started anew, but grew out of what was there already. What existed just changed a bit, and those changes gave a new ability, a new advantage. Since new life was built on what already existed, the perfect solution to a  new environment wasn’t always available, only what could easily develop from what already existed.”

What was workable, what was good enough, survived. Good enough meant it allowed the plant or animal to survive. And to be better than other solutions. But not necessarily perfect. So we are not perfect, and we do not need to be. We need to be good enough.

“The research gives an insight into the “flaws that make us all different, sometimes with different expertise and different abilities, but also different predispositions in diseases,” said Prof David Cooper of Cardiff University, the other lead researcher of the study.”

“Not all human genomes have perfect sequences,” he added. “The human genome is packed with pervasive, architectural flaws.”

How life evolved means we are not perfect, nothing is perfect, and we do not have to be perfect because perfect isn’t what life is about. Life is about good enough.

https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-20617312

*The evidence comes from the 1,000 Genomes project, which is mapping normal human genetic differences, from tiny changes in DNA to major mutations.

 

Procrastination Style, Part III – Solutions

If you haven’t already . . .Take the quiz, Part I

Read the post, Part II –  My Inner Conflicts to see what YOUR Inner Conflicts are so you can solve them.

Beat Procrastination and Make the Grade: The Six Styles of Procrastination and How Students Can Overcome Them

by Linda Sapadin

“1) The Perfectionist: You’re overly concerned with not meeting high expectations; you work so hard you never finish (or, sometimes, never start).”

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“Solutions: Appreciate that it’s your perfectionism, not external standards that make you do what you do. Set realistic (not idealistic) goals before starting. Focus on progress toward your goals. Engage in positive self-talk. Set time limits for each task. Learn to make mistakes—really—do so deliberately and see what happens!”

“2) The Dreamer: You’re great at planning and scheming but frustrated by the practical reality of sitting down to do hard work”.

“Solutions: Try turning some of your dreams into concrete goals and spend time on them regularly. Figure out how academic success can make you feel good about yourself (pleasure doesn’t only come from external sources). You’re not exceptional— the same standards and expectations apply to you. Don’t wait for the spirit to move you; learn to harness your energy.”

“3) The Worrier: “What ifs” get in the way. You avoid making decisions, resist change, and are fearful about the unfamiliar.”

“Solutions: Remember that not to decide is to decide; delaying decisions changes the course of your life. Turn nerves into excitement. Don’t “catastrophize”—not everything has to feel overwhelming. Believe in yourself—it’ll make you less fragile. Commit, then figure out how to accomplish something. Don’t let qualifiers and negative statements creep into your thinking. Answer your “what ifs” with a plan. Break bigger projects into pieces. Hang out with optimists.”

“4) The Crisis-Maker: You enjoy the last-minute adrenaline rush and tell yourself you work best under pressure.”

“Solutions: Think about multiple reasons to do an assignment (instead of only last-minute stress). Recognize that you don’t know if you’ll enjoy an assignment until you start it. You’re not a victim; see tasks as opportunities. Remember the positive aspects of your responsibilities. Reward yourself for getting started earlier. Get your adrenaline going with other activities.”

“5) The Defier: You rebel against external deadlines and expectations. You might be overt about this, or you might exhibit a more passive-aggressive kind of defiance.”

“Solutions: Take responsibility for where you are and the choices that got you there. Negotiate when possible—you just might get your way. Choose your battles and consider the consequences. Remember the relationship between short and long-term choices. Set aside time to do the things you enjoy. Channel your rebellious side into a cause you care about.”

“6) The Overdoer: There’s too much on your plate because you can’t say no or set appropriate boundaries. As a result, there’s never enough time to do it all.”

“Solutions: Remember that no one has it all; you have to prioritize and decide what to care about. Your academic success should come before making others happy. You’re in control—take control. Learn to say no. You’re entitled to relax and reward yourself; don’t feel guilty for doing so. Be more proactive than reactive. Ask for help!”

https://www.amazon.com/Its-About-Time-Procrastination-Overcome/dp/0140242716

https://www.reed.edu/academic_support/pdfs/handouts/6%20kinds%20of%20procrastinators.pdf

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Procrastination Style, Part II – My Inner Conflicts

It’s About Time: The 6 Styles of Procrastination and How to Overcome Them

by Dr. Linda Sapadin

“Chronic procrastinators are not lazy; they simply need to cultivate a more natural and fluid transition from mental activity to physical activity, while allowing an appropriate amount of time and energy to complete the task. To do this, the procrastinator first needs to understand the inner conflicts that produced the procrastination pattern. This book provides a quiz to help the reader understand which procrastination style or combination of styles best fists them, and it offers suggestions for changing how you think, speak and act, based on your procrastination style. Here is a review of the six styles.”

If you haven’t already, take the quiz click PART I – HERE

Style #1:  Perfectionist.  Reluctant to start or finish a task because they don’t want anything less than perfect.

Personality Type:  Critical
Thinking Style:  All or nothing
Speaking Style:  I should…  I have to…
Acting Style  Flawless
Psychological  Need For:  Control

Style #2:  Dreamer.  They don’t like details.  This makes ideas difficult to implement.

Personality Type:  Fanciful
Thinking Style:  Vague
Speaking Style:  I wish…
Acting Style:  Passive
Psychological need for:  Being special

Style #3:  Worrier.  They have an excessive need for security, causing them to fear risk.  They fear change, causing them to avoid finishing projects so they don’t have to leave the comfort of the “known.”

Personality Type:  Fearful
Thinking Style:  Indecisive
Speaking Style:  What if…?
Acting Style:  Cautious
Psychological Need For:  Security

Style #4:  Defier.  A rebel seeking to buck the rules.  By procrastinating, they are setting their own schedule — one that nobody else can predict or control.  More subtle forms are called passive-aggressive.

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Personality Type:  Resistant
Thinking Style:  Oppositional
Speaking Style:  Why should I…?
Acting Style:  Rebellious
Psychological Need For:  Non-conformity

Style #5:  Crisis-Maker.  Addicted to the adrenaline rush of living on the edge.

Personality Type:  Over-emotional
Thinking Style:  Agitated
Speaking Style:  Extremes – “Unbelievable”
Acting Style:  Dramatic
Psychological Need For:  Attention

Style #6:  Over-Doer.  Says yes to too much because they are unable or unwilling to make choices and establish priorities.  They have difficulty making decisions.  Prime candidate for burnout.

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Personality Type:  Busy
Thinking Style:  Compelled
Speaking Style:  Can’t say “no”
Acting Style:  Do-it-all
Psychological Need For:  Self-reliance

                    *          *          *

Now that I’ve read all 6 styles my profile is:

  • Personality type is Dreamer #2  (Fanciful)
  • Thinking style is #1 Perfectionist  (All or Nothing)
  • Speaking style is #5  Crisis Maker (Extremes)
  • Acting style is  #2 Dreamer (Passive)  
  • Psychological style is #6- (Self-Reliance) 

I’m an all-purpose, well-rounded procrastinator.

(Dr. Linda Sapadin doesn’t address that  category in her book . . . I’ll have to write my own book . . . when I get around to it.)

Coming! Part III-SOLUTIONS for your procrastinator style

Procrastination, Part I – What’s Your “Style” Quiz

I prefer to call myself a multi-tasker who has so many projects going there’s never enough time to finish any . . .  rather than a procrastinator

I prefer to call myself a planner who takes planning so seriously that there is never enough time to finish the planning stage . . . rather than a procrastinator.

I prefer to call myself a creative type who is more invested in the process  than the product . . . rather than a procrastinator.

I took this quiz to make sure I was right in my self assessment.

Your Procrastination Style Quiz

from: It’s About Time:  The 6 Styles of Procrastination and How to Overcome Them
by Dr. Linda Sapadin

Directions

If MUCH OF THE TIME” is MOSTLY correct for you with each question just circle the question number.  Otherwise, go on to the next question

1.   Do you have difficulty completing a project because your own high

standards have not been met?

2.   Do you get preoccupied with details, rules or schedules that others don’t

seem to care much about?

3.   Do you think a lot about things you want to accomplish, but rarely get them

off the ground or finished?

4.   Do you wait for opportunities to drop into your lap rather than take an

active, “go-get-‘em” approach?

5.   Do you paralyze yourself before starting a project, worrying so much about

the “what ifs” that you are too anxious or out of time to do the task?

6.   Do you hesitate to leave your comfort zone, avoiding situations that might

cause stress or anxiety?

7.   Do you become sulky, irritable or argumentative when asked to do a task

that you don’t want to do?

8.   Do you take offense or are annoyed at suggestions from others regarding

how you could be more productive?

9.   Do you ignore or put off deadlines, then at the last-minute work frantically

to get things done?

10.   Do you enjoy, or take pride in, taking risks or living on the edge?

11.   Do you have difficulty saying “no” to other’s requests and then feel

resentful or overwhelmed when it’s time to do them?

12.   Do you run around doing things, without really feeling that you’re

accomplishing very much?

Your Procrastination Style Answers

If you’ve answered “Yes, that’s frequently me” to any of these questions, you probably know you’ve got a procrastination problem (You probably knew it before you took the test)

Now take a look at your “Procrastination Style(s)

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If you:

  • Answered Yes to Questions     1 & 2   You are a Perfectionist Procrastinator
  • Answered Yes to Questions     3 & 4   You are a Dreamer Procrastinator
  • Answered Yes to Questions     5 & 6     You are a Worrier Procrastinator
  • Answered Yes to Questions     7 & 8   You are a Defier Procrastinator
  • Answered Yes to Questions     9 & 10   You are an Crisis-Maker Procrastinator
  • Answered Yes to Questions 11 & 12 You are an Over doer Procrastinator

Here’s a summary of what fuels your procrastination style:

  • Perfectionists procrastinate because they want everything to be perfect (that seems obvious!)
  • Dreamers procrastinate because they hate dealing with all those pesky bothersome details and enjoy the “what if”.
  • Worriers procrastinate because they are afraid of change and worry about “what if”.
  • Defiers procrastinate because their difficulty with authority makes them resent and resist doing tasks.
  • Crisis-Makers procrastinate because they love living on the edge, only get motivated at the last minute to enjoy the adrenaline that comes with crisis.
  • Over doers procrastinate because they have too much on their plate, don’t prioritize well and have difficulty getting it all done

If you want more details check out this post http://wp.me/p18HbQ-zt

Now I’m completely confused.  I answered yes to half of each in perfecting, dreamer, over-doers.  Luckily, I’m not a  worrier or defier cuz I always defy myself to worry.

(jw)

What did you learn from taking the quiz?  Let us know in the comments.

Coming!

Part II, Procrastination – My Inner Conflicts

Part III, Procrastination – Solutions

Want to buy the book?  Click here:  https://www.amazon.com/Its-About-Time-Procrastination-Overcome/dp/0140242716